Are you sorry?

Years ago, I knew a young boy who was sorry all the time.

He said "I'm sorry" so often that most adults wanted to send him outside, or maybe put a tape across his mouth. There was no use telling him he didn't need to be sorry. He'd just apologize for saying he was sorry!

You see, he was sorry when there was nothing to be sorry for. At the time I wondered if he was just being sorry in advance, because he was constantly getting into trouble for something.

Now that I know about the negative Pine state, I think he was constantly sorry. He felt that he had to apologize for his very existence, along with apologizing for a multitude of situations and events that had nothing to do with him.

For instance: If someone said "It sure is hot out today." He'd say "I'm sorry."

That poor annoying child was really suffering. I wish I'd known about Bach Flower Remedies then. I could have helped him, and his poor Mom. She had to feel a little wild after hearing it all day every day.

 If you or someone you love is always sorry, visit the Bach Flower remedies guide to learn about the negative Pine state. Then get a bottle and start treatment so you don't have to continue being sorry for the rest of your life.

Would You Rather Sleep Than Play?

If you've fallen into a chronic state of thinking sleep is better than anything else you might think of doing, you're probably an Olive personality in a negative state.

This can occur after a long illness - when you've used every bit of your physical energy just to get well. It can also happen if you've spent weeks or months caring for a loved one who was ill - or if you have simply been pushing yourself too hard, working too many hours, eating an unbalanced diet, or losing sleep for any reason.

The negative Olive state occurs when you shut off communication with your higher self and fail to heed the warning signs that you're pushing yourself too hard.

Fortunately the Bach Flower Essence Olive can help you regain that lost energy. By putting you back in balance and helping you reconnect with your higher self, Olive acts as a restorative to both your mental and physical self.

Interestingly, while most of the Bach Flower Essences work to bring you back in balance after an event, Olive can help prevent exhaustion. If you know you're going to be facing a long and stressful ordeal, take it ahead of time to stay balanced and full of energy.

To learn more about Olive and the 37 other Bach Flower Essences, visit our Bach Flower Reference Guide at it's new address: bachflower.org

Or, if you'd like to take our questionnaire to see which of the Bach Flower Essences are right for you, visit us at Feel Bach!

Helping Small Children Cope With Fear and Anxiety

Sometimes it’s hard for an adult to understand that a baby or a toddler can experience the same fearful emotions that an adult has. After all, they’re just babies, they don’t understand the situation.

No, they don’t. And that makes it worse. Rather than being able to think through a problem from all sides and understand that it isn’t as dire as it appears, those kids are stuck with just the feelings. The emotions and the energy of a situation can lay them low, and if they’re very young, they don’t even have the language skills to talk to anyone about it. Worse, no one thinks to explain to them that things “really will be OK.”

Kids and pets are far more sensitive to energy, emotion, and feeling than are adults. And that’s why we as adults need to protect them to the best of our ability.

The first move, of course, is to try to create a life without turmoil so they have no frightening energies to pick up. But that isn’t always possible.

If someone is ill, if financial problems are plaguing the household, if there’s been a crime or an injury, adults carry it with them and the kids can pick it up.

Adults really do need to remember to talk to small children, even if they don’t think those children can understand. They need that reassurance because they already have the fear and apprehension.

And next, they need some help in getting their energies back into alignment.

That’s the beauty of Bach Flower Remedies. While they won’t work on adults without their knowledge, they do work on small children and pets.

Aspen treats unexplained anxiety – while Gentian and Mimulus treat anxiety and fear when the cause is known. Mustard treats the dark cloud of depression, while Star of Bethlehem treats the effects of trauma. (As when an infant has been in a frightening car accident.)

If you care for a child (or a pet) who appears to be suffering from fear and anxiety, visit www.bachflower.org and read about the 38 Bach Flower Remedies in the Bach Flower reference guide. Choose a formula based on the events you know have affected the child’s life, combined with the symptoms that the child is exhibiting.

The wonderful thing about Bach Flower Remedies is that if you choose incorrectly and add a flower essence to the blend that isn’t necessary, there will be no ill effects.

Bach Flower Essences are completely safe for babies, pregnant women, the elderly, those taking prescription drugs, and everyone in between. They can only help, never harm.

Good News for Bach Flower Essences Users

The website www.bachflower.org has added a new feature! Now you can research the remedies you want and add them to your personal blend all in one place. Once you've made your choices you'll be taken back to FeelBach! to place your order.

All 38 Bach Flower Essences are listed there, along with an explanation of the conditions that each treats. You’ll see how to recognize a negative state and what to expect when you’ve achieved a positive state.

We are all supposed to be happy. And for the majority of the time, we can – as long as we stay in tune with our higher selves and keep our energies balanced.

Unfortunately, sometimes despite our best efforts, the events around us throw us out of balance.

Remember that life never stays the same. Different situations and people come and go, and they all have an effect on us. So what you need this year may be different from what you might need next year.

The important thing is to keep tabs on your feelings, and when you’re in any state you perceive as negative or imbalanced, take steps to fix it. Use the information at www.bachflower.org to choose a Bach Flower Remedy to bring your energies back into balance.

If you really aren't sure even after reading all the pages, you can still go to www.feelbach.com and use the questionnaire.

A Message for Those Who Have Lost Their Homes

Over the past couple of years, thousands of homeowners have been subjected to foreclosure proceedings or are being forced to sell their homes through the "Short sale" process in order to get out from under crushing debt.

It's become so common that it no longer carries the stigma that it once did, but that doesn't keep the emotional pain away when you're the one it happens to.

We all know intellectually that all these foreclosures are the result of forces we could not control. And while blame and finger-pointing is rampant, we know that it was a combination of events that led to the housing crisis and the employment crisis.

The promise of a refinance or a home sale before adjustable rate mortgages reset went away when home prices fell. Hard-working, loyal employees have lost their jobs through no fault of their own. New jobs are scarce because companies are afraid to hire in this unpredictable economic climate.

If you've lost your home, it's probably not your fault. But that doesn't halt your feelings.

The emotions that follow can range from guilt (I should have known better than to buy this house / agree to this loan) to anger (I didn't deserve to be laid off) to fear (what will happen to me and my family) to depression and loss of hope (there's no way out, I'm doomed)to embarrassment (what do my friends/family think of me now).

Those very understandable emotions, left to rage uncontrolled, can become debilitating. They can prevent you from being able to pick up the pieces and get on with life. They can even destroy relationships with friends and family.

And that can do much greater damage than this temporary setback.

Bach Flower Remedies can get your emotions back in balance, so you can make good decisions about your future; find new employment if that's what you need; and maintain the relationships that can be your support system during this troubling time.

Each person reacts to this situation in his or her own way, so there is no one Bach Flower Essence to recommend. Instead, go to the FeelBach! questionnaire to create a blend designed to treat the emotions that you're feeling. If you'd rather choose and create your own blend, visit www.bachflower.org and read about the 38 Bach Flower Essences. Then choose up to 6 essences to treat your specific emotions.

Either way, the sooner you start, the sooner you'll be back in control of your life, and not held back by emotional imbalance. Then you can regroup and move with confidence into a better future.

Hang in there! It WILL get better!

Getting the Courage to Advance at Work

Are you working hard, being a strong asset to your employer, and yet not advancing in terms of position and paycheck. Is this happening even when other, less talented co-workers advance?

Are you by chance doing some of the work that those co-workers are being recognized and rewarded for? Do you know you need to ask for a raise, but can't find the courage to do it?

Three different personality traits could be holding you back, and fortunately, Bach Flower Essences can help you re-align your energies and become free of them.

If you suffer from an inability to say no, turn to Centaury. Soon you'll be able to tell your co-workers that they'll have to pull their own weight.

If lack of self-confidence and shyness are keeping you from stepping up to claim responsibility for the good work you've done, or preventing you from asking for that raise, add Larch and Mimulus to your Bach Flower Essences formula.

Visit the Bach Flowers reference guide to learn more about each of these Bach Flowers. Then come back to FeelBach! to order your personal success formula!

To give yourself an extra boost and help the Bach Flower Remedies help you, work on changing your thoughts about that job. Put a picture firmly in your mind about how things will be when you get that raise or promotion. Picture yourself happily working at your new job, and basking in the approval and recognition you'll get from both your co-workers and your boss.

Great News for Bach Flower Essence Users

FeelBach! has just made available the complete list of Bach Flower Essences with an explanation of what each is used for.

The new website tells how to recognize symptoms when a person is in need of a specific flower essence, so that those who do not have access to a Bach Flower practitioner can more easily determine which essences will help them the most.

Check out the Bach Flower Reference Guide today!

Be sure to bookmark the pages that apply to you, or take good notes. As I read all the pages I learned what to use in specific situations in my own life as well as how to treat some flowers I had transplanted into my garden.

They were not doing well, but with a little help from Feel5ive and Crab Apple, they're thriving. I guess it stands to reason that energies from healthy flowers might assist other flowers when they were in need. I just added a few drops of each to the watering can each day for about a week, and now I'm enjoying new blooms on healthy, happy plants.