Over the past couple of years, thousands of homeowners have been subjected to foreclosure proceedings or are being forced to sell their homes through the "Short sale" process in order to get out from under crushing debt.
It's become so common that it no longer carries the stigma that it once did, but that doesn't keep the emotional pain away when you're the one it happens to.
We all know intellectually that all these foreclosures are the result of forces we could not control. And while blame and finger-pointing is rampant, we know that it was a combination of events that led to the housing crisis and the employment crisis.
The promise of a refinance or a home sale before adjustable rate mortgages reset went away when home prices fell. Hard-working, loyal employees have lost their jobs through no fault of their own. New jobs are scarce because companies are afraid to hire in this unpredictable economic climate.
If you've lost your home, it's probably not your fault. But that doesn't halt your feelings.
The emotions that follow can range from guilt (I should have known better than to buy this house / agree to this loan) to anger (I didn't deserve to be laid off) to fear (what will happen to me and my family) to depression and loss of hope (there's no way out, I'm doomed)to embarrassment (what do my friends/family think of me now).
Those very understandable emotions, left to rage uncontrolled, can become debilitating. They can prevent you from being able to pick up the pieces and get on with life. They can even destroy relationships with friends and family.
And that can do much greater damage than this temporary setback.
Bach Flower Remedies can get your emotions back in balance, so you can make good decisions about your future; find new employment if that's what you need; and maintain the relationships that can be your support system during this troubling time.
Each person reacts to this situation in his or her own way, so there is no one Bach Flower Essence to recommend. Instead, go to the FeelBach! questionnaire to create a blend designed to treat the emotions that you're feeling. If you'd rather choose and create your own blend, visit www.bachflower.org and read about the 38 Bach Flower Essences. Then choose up to 6 essences to treat your specific emotions.
Either way, the sooner you start, the sooner you'll be back in control of your life, and not held back by emotional imbalance. Then you can regroup and move with confidence into a better future.
Hang in there! It WILL get better!
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Sunday, March 21, 2010
Tuesday, March 09, 2010
Take Control of Your Life With Bach Flower Remedies
A couple of months ago a friend called to ask my opinion about a change she wanted to make in her life. She dislikes her job and wanted to do something else, but it meant taking some night classes and expanding her skills.
She started the conversation by telling me how she thought that job would be much more interesting and fulfilling and I agreed that it probably would. It’s in a field that she’s always found fascinating and in fact dabbles in as a hobby.
So what’s the problem? Her brother pointed out that the starting pay was less than she’s earning now. Her cousin said that if she’d be doing something as work that she thinks is fun it will ruin the fun of her hobby. Her mother told her she really didn’t have time to take night classes. Her husband doubted her commitment to taking the classes. Another friend talked about the “security” of staying in her current job. Her sister reminded her that if she stayed where she is, she might get a promotion.
I said “Wait a minute. Why are you asking for everyone’s opinion? What do YOU want to do?”
Again, she told me how excited she was about the idea and thought it was a really good idea, but then went back to what everyone else thought about it. I told her that what everybody else thought didn’t matter, but I could tell I wasn’t getting anywhere.
Then I realized that this is a pattern. She has second-guessed her every decision for the last couple of years. She asks everyone’s opinion and generally ends up letting someone else make decisions for her. How sad.
So, instead of expressing the annoyance that was my first reaction, I talked to her about Bach Flower Essences and about re-balancing her energies. She was a little hesitant to believe that something so simple could give her control over her own decisions. But luckily she listened to me and didn’t ask 16 other people for their opinions. (Lucky – because not everyone knows of the power of Bach Flower Remedies, and some might have talked her out of trying.)
She could have begun using Cerato by itself to overcome her lack of confidence. But I guided her to the FeelBach! Questionnaire and she instead began using a custom-made blend of flower essences that also addresses some of her other imbalances.
Now instead of asking for advice about how to run her life, she’s asking for recommendations for a housekeeper to take over some of her household duties - so she can have plenty of time to attend classes and study for her new career.
She started the conversation by telling me how she thought that job would be much more interesting and fulfilling and I agreed that it probably would. It’s in a field that she’s always found fascinating and in fact dabbles in as a hobby.
So what’s the problem? Her brother pointed out that the starting pay was less than she’s earning now. Her cousin said that if she’d be doing something as work that she thinks is fun it will ruin the fun of her hobby. Her mother told her she really didn’t have time to take night classes. Her husband doubted her commitment to taking the classes. Another friend talked about the “security” of staying in her current job. Her sister reminded her that if she stayed where she is, she might get a promotion.
I said “Wait a minute. Why are you asking for everyone’s opinion? What do YOU want to do?”
Again, she told me how excited she was about the idea and thought it was a really good idea, but then went back to what everyone else thought about it. I told her that what everybody else thought didn’t matter, but I could tell I wasn’t getting anywhere.
Then I realized that this is a pattern. She has second-guessed her every decision for the last couple of years. She asks everyone’s opinion and generally ends up letting someone else make decisions for her. How sad.
So, instead of expressing the annoyance that was my first reaction, I talked to her about Bach Flower Essences and about re-balancing her energies. She was a little hesitant to believe that something so simple could give her control over her own decisions. But luckily she listened to me and didn’t ask 16 other people for their opinions. (Lucky – because not everyone knows of the power of Bach Flower Remedies, and some might have talked her out of trying.)
She could have begun using Cerato by itself to overcome her lack of confidence. But I guided her to the FeelBach! Questionnaire and she instead began using a custom-made blend of flower essences that also addresses some of her other imbalances.
Now instead of asking for advice about how to run her life, she’s asking for recommendations for a housekeeper to take over some of her household duties - so she can have plenty of time to attend classes and study for her new career.
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