Thursday, November 15, 2018

Facing the Holidays With the Grief of Loss

For many approaching this holiday season, there is no joy or cheer. 

They’re suffering from grief over the loss of a loved one who
“should” be with them, and they’re stuck in the past and how life was when that loved one was there. 

The loss could be through death, divorce, or a seemingly irreparable rift between siblings, friends, or parents and children. It could stem from the loss of a beloved pet as well as a beloved human. 

Whatever the source of the loss, it left a gaping hole, and that hole has been filled with grief, loneliness, and despair.

Some sufferers retreat to live in the past, longing for what was and what could have been had the loss not occurred. Cheerful greetings of Happy Thanksgiving or Merry Christmas fall on deaf ears, or elicit a silent response of “There’s nothing to be thankful for,” or “Being merry is not an option when your life is over.” 

They’re lonely, even if surrounded by friends, because those friends cannot take the place of the one who is missing. 

People in this state need the Flower Essence Honeysuckle. This flower remedy helps sufferers look back at the past and preserve what was beautiful, without grieving for its loss. It also helps bring them back into the present where they can begin once more to appreciate what they still do have in their lives. 

Water Violet is another flower remedy that can help people stop wallowing in their grief, come out of the shell, and begin to interact with others again. 

Many who suffer are hit with a “double whammy.” They are experiencing their own sorrow and are also concerned for the feelings of others who share the loss. Their excessive care can actually be harmful and crippling for those whose suffering they would hope to alleviate. 

Red Chestnut will help put their energies in balance, so they can be supportive in the shared grief, but not overpowering. 

If you’ve suffered a great loss in recent months you may be unable to summon feelings of joy for the holidays. But with help from Flower Remedies from FeelBach! you can put your energies in alignment so you can at least enjoy pleasant memories of that person or pet who is no longer with you.