Facing the Holidays With the Grief of Loss

For many approaching this holiday season, there is no joy or cheer. 

They’re suffering from grief over the loss of a loved one who

“should” be with them, and they’re stuck in the past and how life was when that loved one was there. 

The loss could be through death, divorce, or a seemingly irreparable rift between siblings, friends, or parents and children. It could stem from the loss of a beloved pet as well as a beloved human. 

Whatever the source of the loss, it left a gaping hole, and that hole has been filled with grief, loneliness, and despair.

Some sufferers retreat to live in the past, longing for what was and what could have been had the loss not occurred. Cheerful greetings of Happy Thanksgiving or Merry Christmas fall on deaf ears, or elicit a silent response of “There’s nothing to be thankful for,” or “Being merry is not an option when your life is over.” 

They’re lonely, even if surrounded by friends, because those friends cannot take the place of the one who is missing. 

People in this state need the Flower Essence Honeysuckle. This flower remedy helps sufferers look back at the past and preserve what was beautiful, without grieving for its loss. It also helps bring them back into the present where they can begin once more to appreciate what they still do have in their lives. 

Water Violet is another flower remedy that can help people stop wallowing in their grief, come out of the shell, and begin to interact with others again. 

Many who suffer are hit with a “double whammy.” They are experiencing their own sorrow and are also concerned for the feelings of others who share the loss. Their excessive care can actually be harmful and crippling for those whose suffering they would hope to alleviate. 

Red Chestnut will help put their energies in balance, so they can be supportive in the shared grief, but not overpowering. 

If you’ve suffered a great loss in recent months you may be unable to summon feelings of joy for the holidays. But with help from Flower Remedies from FeelBach! you can put your energies in alignment so you can at least enjoy pleasant memories of that person or pet who is no longer with you.

Can Flower Essences Help You Find Love?

Valentine's Day is tomorrow. Do you have someone to share it with? If not, Dr. Bach's essences may be able to help you change that situation by next Valentine's Day.

How? By helping you overcome the emotional imbalances that are preventing you from finding love.

For instance: 

Centaury will help rid you of feelings of inferiority – so you CAN reach out to meet someone new, or make your feelings known to someone who is in your life right now. 

Cherry Plum will allow you to "let go of the reins" and allow yourself to give in to your loving feelings.

Gentian is another essence that will give you confidence – to believe in yourself and your worth to others. 

Water Violet will help you develop "people skills" and allow you to bond with others. 

The reasons for being alone are many, and most of them are rooted in our own emotions. So visit FeelBach! and fill out the questionnaire. It will give you insight into yourself and you'll come away with the perfect formula to get your emotional life back on track.

Is Your True Strength Hidden?

...You may be a Water Violet personality.

"Delicate but upright" is the description given to the water violet, and it fits those with a Water Violent personality.

Why should it surprise us that the power of Bach Flower Essences should reflect the strengths of the flowers from which they are derived?

The water violet's true strength lies hidden beneath the surface of the water in the form of leaves that lend strength and stability.

Translated to human behavior, the Water Violet personality exhibits strength and dignified superiority - choosing their own way without fanfare, and without outside influence.

These are the individuals who are calm in crisis - who can take charge with grace and dignity, and soothe others. Water Violets are decidedly not given to emotional outbursts, whether in negative or positive situation.

Because they are strong, people turn to them for help and advice, and too much of that can put the Water Violet personality into the negative state. This is when they begin to believe in their own superiority and "specialness" - and it causes them to withdraw even further.

But, since we humans do need each other, withdrawal creates a strain, which can lead to tension in the body, and illness.

Fortunately, the negative state is often short lived. The Water Violet person will come back into a positive state with Bach Flower Remedies treatment and a bit of rest.

To read more about Water Violent and other Bach Flower Essences, come to Flower Bach, and to take the questionnaire and see which Bach Flower Remedies would be most helpful to you, visit Feel Bach!

If Working With Others is Painful...

If working with others is painful, you've probably tried to avoid it by taking jobs where you can work alone. You're probably greatly admired for being able to "handle it all" on your own. But, it doesn't get you many friends.

You might be content to remain solitary, even if lonely, but sometimes there is just no choice, you have to interact with clients, or with bosses and co-workers. And worse - sometimes you have to let them do some of the things that you could probably do better.

The Bach Flower Essence Water Violet can help you become more comfortable in situations where you must not only work with other people, but rely on them. In fact, after treatment you may learn that you enjoy letting someone else carry part of the load.

Go read about it. And if you think you'd be a bit happier if you allowed yourself to let go a little, begin treatment with Water Violet.

Bach Flower Essences can make a huge difference in your happiness quotient. So give them a try.

Do You Shut Out Those Who Would Be Friends?

Did you know that some of the most capable people in the world are also among the saddest? They're the kind, compassionate people trapped in a negative Water Violet state.

If you're one of them, you'll recognize yourself, I'm sure.

This person is capable, calm in a crisis, and on hand to give help and advice when asked. Otherwise he minds his own business.

People depend on her to help solve their problems, but the energy drain is severe - causing physical problems due to continual tension in her body.

As a leader, he's valued for being calm, but he really isn't a good boss because he feels other people's problems so acutely that he can't make tough decisions if he thinks anyone will feel hurt.

He does feel hurt himself, however. He expects that since his requests are fair and he treats people well, they should follow and cooperate without prodding. When they don't, he doesn't reprimand, he simply shuts them out.

If you're a Water Violet personality, you won't ask others for help. Even when ill you prefer to be left alone to handle things yourself.

The good news is that you don't have to go on suffering this way. After treatment with the Water Violet Bach Flower essence, you'll be able to connect with others again. You'll still be independent; you'll still mind your own business and expect others to mind theirs; but you'll no longer be isolated from friendships.

Read about Water Violet and the other 37 Bach Flower Essences, then visit Feel Bach! to order your own personal blend.

Your New Year will be much happier as a result!