When the Past Prevents Happiness in the Now

The holidays often bring melancholy to those who have lost loved ones, or who yearn for the days when their children were small and the family was large and boisterous.

They miss the noisy holiday dinners, with perhaps 20 friends and family members around the table. They mourn for those who have passed on, and wish that their children could be home again, rather than living in some other part of the country - or dining with their in-laws.

If holiday dinners are now the same as dinner every other day - cooking for only one or two - it's easy to feel depressed.

These are natural and normal feelings, but when they destroy enjoyment of the "now," they need to be addressed. The sufferer needs to move forward, accept change, and find enjoyment in today while still retaining and cherishing good memories of the past.

Honeysuckle is the Bach Flower Essence that will help re-balance those energies and allow a person to live well in the present.

It's also natural to have regrets from the past. Everyone has done or said something that he or she wishes could be erased. If those regrets have grown into genuine feelings of guilt, then Pine can be added to the Honeysuckle for a more complete Bach Flower Remedy.

If you or a loved one is having trouble letting go of the past long enough to live in the present, visit FeelBach! to get your personal remedy. Shipping is fast, so in just a few days you'll be on your way to a happier holiday season.

Would you like to know more about what each of the Bach Flower Essences can do to enrich your life? Visit our information site to read about each of the 38 Bach Flower Remedies.

Kids and Summer Camp - the Emotional Conflict

Are your children headed off to summer camp this year?

If so, they may experience an emotional conflict that leaves you frustrated. They want to go, they know they'll have fun, but when they get there, homesickness can become the over-riding emotion.

To counteract this emotion and let them fully enjoy their new experiences, start them on the Bach Flower Remedy Honeysuckle several days before their departure, and send it with them to use while they're away. It will help to balance their energies and keep them in the present.

This is also a good remedy to use when children are forced to attend a new school due to the family's relocation, or when they go off to boarding school or college. These events trigger a mild form of the negative Honeysuckle state, which can delay their acceptance of the present and cause a longer adjustment time.

If your child also suffers from other imbalances, such as lack of self-esteem, fill out the Feel Bach! questionnaire and get a blend made especially for him or her.

Honeysuckle is most often used to treat people who can't release the past - either its pleasant memories or its mistakes. It is seen in widows who can't part with their late husband's belongings or become involved in a new relationship, even years later.

It's also seen in those who can't accept the inevitable changes that come with aging - and this resistance can actually accelerate the body's deterioration, showing up in a "defeated" carriage and poor skin quality.

Along with effectively counteracting homesickness, treatment with this Bach Flower Essence results in an ability to learn from the past, integrate its lessons into the present for use in the present and future, and to cherish good memories while releasing the negative feelings of poor ones.