Do You Drive People Away?

Do you drive people way by demanding too much attention?

• Do you find yourself talking too much? 
• Do people shy away from you because you tend to dominate conversations – turning a visit into more of a lecture from you than a two-way interaction?
• Do you tend to turn another person's comments away from them and back to you as quickly as possible? 
• Do you tend to get so "up close and personal" with people that they're constantly backing away from you? 
• Do you see others attempting to put a counter, a desk, a chair, or even another person between them and you?

If so, you're suffering from a negative Heather state. 

It's natural to fall into a negative Heather state following a traumatic event, an illness, or a financial setback. Your family and friends will probably be understanding and forgiving, as long as it doesn't last too long. 

So don't stay there. Instead, get the Bach Flower Essence Heather and begin to reconnect with your Higher Self.

If you're not sure what you need to get out of an uncomfortable emotional state, visit Feel Bach! and fill out the questionnaire. Our experts will help you.

When impending change instills fear, look to Walnut

This month is a time of change for the youth of our nation – and for their parents. 

Children will soon be beginning first grade – starting high school – going off to college. For many it's exciting, for others it's terrifying, and for some it's both at the same time. The fear can lead to inaction and it can lead to loss of sleep and nightmares. 

Then there are the parents. Watching our children go through the stages on their way to adulthood is rewarding, yet fearful. We want them to go forward, yet want to hold them to the past – to the way it was. 

The Bach Flower Essence Walnut can help ease this transition, break the spell, and untie the bonds that seek to hold us to the past. At the same time, Walnut will help open the doors to inner inspiration and allow confidence to flourish. 

If you and/or your children are feeling anything but joy and anticipation about the coming changes, look to Walnut to help you through the transition.

Do you insist that people prove their love to you?

Do you push your children, spouse, siblings, parents, and even friends to pay more attention to you – and make them feel guilty if they want to do anything that doesn't include you?  If so, you may be suffering from a terrible feeling – that of being unloved and unwanted. 

To make yourself feel better, you try to make everyone around you prove that they love you by spending time with you, or by doing favors, tasks, and errands for you.

Do you insist that your grown children spend every holiday with you – even though there's another set of parents who also want to see them? 

Do you force your spouse to go along with your favorite leisure activities, even though he or she would enjoy doing something else? 

And is it never enough to relieve your doubts? 

Your logic tells you that they wouldn't be going along with your dictates if they didn't love you. But then the other side says that they're only doing it to avoid feeling guilty. And the truth is, the more you continue with this behavior, the more that might be true. 

So stop it. 

You're in a negative Chicory state, and you need to get out. Treat your condition with the Bach Flower Essence Chicory, and start feeling better. 

Chicory will allow you to love and appreciate yourself, and to accept and appreciate the love you receive from others, rather than doubting it. 

Once you let go of your insecurities, the people you love will enjoy your company more – and will WANT to spend more time with you. It's a win-win! 

To learn more about the amazing emotional healing powers of Bach Flower Essences, visit FeelBach!

When fear is ruling your life, use Red Chesnut

In 1933, during his first inaugural address, Franklin D. Roosevelt said "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself…"

That's easy to say, but for those who suffer from irrational fear, "fear itself" is a huge obstacle. 

Fear prevents the sufferer from enjoying life - and from allowing his or her children and other loved ones to enjoy life.

Sufferers often exhibit irrational fear of illness - being afraid to take their infants out of the house for fear of being exposed to disease, being afraid to let older children play outside on cold days, and being afraid that every sniffle is a sign of debilitating disease.

They also worry endlessly if someone doesn't call when expected, and they try to discourage friends and family from participating in any activity that might carry a hint of danger. "What if" parents never fall asleep at night until their teen-aged children are safely home.

And it can get worse. A friend confided recently that until she got treatment she "dreamed up" fears. For instance, when her son said he was taking her grandson for a nature walk, she became afraid that her son might have a heart attack, leaving her 3 year old grandson alone and unable to find his way back to get help. 

When that didn't happen, she worried that there might be a murderer in the parking lot when they retrieved their car to go home. That didn't happen, so she worried about a wreck on the highway.

If this sounds like you, it's time to get help. Fear is ruling your life. 

You need the BachFlower Essence Red Chestnut. Most people who suffer from a negative Red Chestnut state do so for short periods of time, usually in reaction to an event. For some it can even be a reaction to a very happy event, such as the birth of a child. It can also be an occupational hazard. Counselors and nurses sometimes fall into this state. The danger is that like all destructive emotions, fear can multiply and become stronger if not checked. 

If you feel yourself becoming overly fearful about the health and welfare of your loved ones, you probably need to treat with this Bach Flower Remedy. You'll feel better, and your family and friends will too.