It happens to everyone at some time. But for some people, it becomes chronic.
It might be triggered by an attack from someone else. Your spouse or a friend criticizes what you said or what you did. It could be something as simple as forgetting to put the rolls on at dinner or failing to send a birthday card on time.
The criticism could come from a boss or co-worker. Maybe you made a mistake at work and someone came down hard about it.
It could even come because you overheard a critical remark about your choice of shoes.
And it could come from yourself – recognizing that you "blew a sale" because you didn't say the right things on a sales call or because you arrived 5 minutes late.
Whatever the reason, your brain takes over and begins a relentless attack. You go over and over a situation, thinking "Why did I say that?" or "How could I have forgotten that?" or even "I'll never have any sense about what to wear."
Before long, you develop a tension in your facial muscles – and those are followed by chronic frontal headaches. Of course the headaches make it even more difficult to do your job well, so you make more mistakes and criticize yourself even harder.
While this is a problem for adults, children are especially vulnerable to verbal attacks and can learn to doubt themselves so much that they withdraw. After all, if Mom or Dad says something critical, how many children feel secure enough to "talk back" and say it wasn't fair? Instead, they hold it in and it festers.
The Bach Flower Remedy White Chestnut can break the cycle.
White Chestnut allows the mind to settle down and stop replaying the negatives. It allows you to once again connect with and accept guidance from your higher self.
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